Have you lived?

Have been reading Eva Hoffman's "Lost in Translation," when the heroine described that her Mom always wept on a particular date, the date when her younger sister got killed in the war, she was only eighteen. Whenever her Mom thought of her, she would say, "She hadn't even lived yet."

How do you define if a person has lived or not? Do I have to climb all the mountains, dive in every ocean, taste all kinds of delicacies, travel the world, try out every adventure......before I can claim that I have lived? My grandma never traveled outside of China her entire life, can we say a hardworking, tenacious woman, who was widowed at a young age, stuggled to bring up four of her children all by herself, had not lived her life?

How do I want to live my life, so that when the day comes, I could say that I have lived the life I always wanted... ...